Originally Posted by
clog boy
Here's something probably... you might want to load both pairs of families into another family, then give them a visibility checkbox. Load both pairs into the eventual family and go to properties. Check the gray box behind the added visibility parameters to link them to a yes/no parameter in the parent family.
You can then display either family of the pair by adding a formula to the checkbox, for instance if the parameters are named 'nested1' and 'nested2' then give nested2 the formula '=not(nested1)'.
There might be easier ways, but if this fixes it for you then feel free to experiment.